Monday, 10 September 2012

HOW TO MAINTAIN GOOD FAMILY


Good family  


      
A good family is a good university.  In a good university, every branch has to be maintained properly.  As the same manner, in family every member is considered as a good lecturer and they have to maintain their family with a good cooperation. A good family is like a good temple.  Then only it will be shining ever and ever.  All families are different and all families will have their own issues.  But if you present   your right amount of concentration and determination, then it will become as a temple.



You can certainly make your family and your family life the best only by developing proper relationships with your family members and even other promptly and pleasantly.  Usually every house will be built with stairs.  So every one’s family life or family will not be perfect all respects.  But if you are ready to maintain it carefully, then you can make as your best choice.  There are some key features which you have to follow as you’re a head of your family to make it shining. 



·        First you have to respect your elders and aged people sincerely.  Then only you can expect proper respect from your younger members. You should provide your care sincerely in each and every aspect.  If they say something to you, first you have to give your ears to them carefully and you should not avoid them as they are so elders. What they say and what are you doing according to their suggestions are the most vital thing.  If they are satisfied then everything will be satisfied without fail. 
·        Choosing friends is always yours choice.  But your life with same parents, sisters, brothers, husband, wife and children is purely impossible once again and having them as per your choice is not in your hands. This is the one and only chance.  So you should not miss a chance to make them so happy.



·        Then you have to always mind that your life will not be going always smoothly.  You should be afraid and go out when you have a chance to face ups and downs in your family life.  In facing such kind of ups and downs only you will have a thrilling experience.  So it is always better and advisable to face all your ups and downs in your family life with positive mind and thinking.



·        You should not try to battle with every one and with every happening in your family. It is better to compromise whenever and wherever it is possible.  Making compromise is a simple and effective tool to manage anything favorably and positively.  Sine every one’s common family life is packed with full of unexpected positive and negative incidents, if you are ready to  love every one around you, then every one will become happy and they will make you to be happy. 



·        Besides, as a family man, you may have to compromise a lot in your life with desire or with hatred.  But you have to tackle all these things hopefully. Please mind that your family is the first environment to begin learning this important effective skill.  Your family members are first people who will understand and know you best and can guide you with their all kinds of reactions, thoughts and suggestions. 



·        Presentation of gifts to your family members frequently and unexpectedly is a wise policy to make and keep your family always happy. Surprise gifts to your family members will always enhance the density if happiness and people will love your more and more. 
·        Try to be loyal with your parents especially if they are very old.  But as a special policy, sometimes if you failed to say some kind of tender matters, it will keep your family peace in a well to do manner.  So sometimes saying nothing can be better for a family relationship than saying everything as a matter of fact.  



·        Fighting for unnecessary silly things always has to be avoided compulsory. Feel always free to communicate everything with each and every person in your family.  Try to listen to them if anybody wants to say something to you sincerely. Try to be always with them if they need your presence and help for any kind of purpose.  Such kind of support will certainly enrich your intimacy with family well.



·        It is always necessary and essential to give your love, affection and care to our family members than to your own personal life and desires. Fix a family time even once in a week or once in a month and during such precious time, try to talk with every one without any kind of guilty and share your all possible love and care with them.  During such period, you can do anything to promote your family happiness such playing to together, going somewhere together, having retreat to anywhere etc, such effort has to make everyone to enjoy great. 


·        Eating together once in a day is always will give your very favorable result.  There is no doubt in it.  So you have to first accept that your relationship with your family is purely depending on both you and them that is your family members. 
A positive attitude is a must for you to run your family successfully.  If you want to have very less stress and you want to smile more and always positively, positive attitude is a must element. Hard working with honesty for your family and family members will reward you more than your expectation. Even little lies will become into big lies.  So try to be loyal and honest in all respects. If you have lost your trust, then you cannot again regain it.  If you are ready to work hard at everything, be sure that certainly it will pay off in the end. 

1 comment:

  1. MY EARTHLY, 8TH GRADE EDUCATED, SELF-MADE FATHER, 1 OF THE SMARTEST MEN I EVER KNEW; USED TO SAY: "SON, YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS IN LIFE...BUT YOU SURE AS HELL CAN'T CHOOSE YOUR RELATIVES!"

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